The Power of Coaching as a Change Enabler: Why Advice Isn't Always the Answer

Coaching is uniquely powerful as a change enabler

As an executive coach with over a thousand hours of coaching practice behind me, I often encounter a familiar scenario: despite understanding the difference between coaching and mentoring, many of my clients instinctively ask for advice. It’s a natural impulse—especially when facing a challenge, a tough decision, or a goal that seems just out of reach.

Coming from a consulting background myself, I understand this deeply. In consulting, we’re trained to analyze, advise, and provide solutions. Shifting from that mode to the world of coaching was a profound paradigm shift—one that required me to unlearn my default tendencies and re-learn how to deeply listen, be curious, and suspend the need to offer “answers.”

Coaching vs. Mentoring: A Critical Distinction

Mentoring draws from the mentor’s own experiences, insights, and strategies. It's incredibly valuable when someone needs to learn the ropes of a particular domain or career path. But here's the challenge—what worked for me as a mentor may not work for my clients. Their context is different, their values unique, and their definition of success personal.

Coaching, on the other hand, starts with the person—not the problem. It assumes the client is naturally creative, resourceful, and whole. As coaches, our role is not to direct, but to guide through honestly curious inquiry. The shift lies in resisting the urge to advise and instead leaning into curiosity:

• Why is this challenge important to you?

• What have you already tried?

• Who do you want to become to be successful at this?

• What assumptions might you be making?

• What’s at stake if things don’t change?

These aren’t just questions. They are doors to awareness.

From Problem-Solving to Self-Discovery

When clients pause to answer these types of questions, something powerful happens. They begin to articulate the storyline behind their challenge—the beliefs, patterns, and emotions driving their choices. Often, they discover that what they thought was the “real problem” wasn’t the core issue at all.

By exploring what success looks like for them, they also begin to define their own criteria for progress—no longer adopting someone else’s roadmap, but powerfully crafting their own. The solutions they uncover aren’t imposed; they emerge from within. Therefore clients are far more likely to act with conviction and stay committed.

The Accountability Shift

A major strength of coaching lies in its focus on accountability. Coaching conversations naturally evolve from insight to action. I often ask, “What’s one small step you can take this week toward this new solution?” These baby steps build momentum, deepen ownership, and reinforce self-belief.

Rather than waiting for perfect answers or external permission, clients start to realize they have agency. And over time, they develop greater resilience and confidence—not because someone told them what to do, but because they discovered what works for them.

Coaching as a Path to Authenticity

Perhaps the most profound impact of coaching is how it allows individuals to become more of who they truly want to become. In our sessions, clients often uncover long-held beliefs or borrowed definitions of success that no longer serve them. Letting go of these can feel liberating.

When they stop trying to copy what worked for others and instead create strategies that align with their own purpose, strengths and values, they don’t just solve problems—they evolve and transform. They start showing up as their most authentic selves, operating at their fullest potential.

Final Reflections

While mentoring and coaching both have value, coaching is uniquely powerful as a change enabler. It honors the individual’s context, unlocks their wisdom, and drives meaningful, sustainable growth. As coaches, our gift is not our advice—it’s our ability to hold space, ask the right questions, and trust our clients to find their way forward.

In that sense, coaching isn’t just a method. It’s a mindset. And it’s one that changes lives—one insight, one action, and one authentic choice at a time!

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